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◀ Wednesday, June 20, 2007
i have a question for you. how important are your friends? simple, right? i want you to think of who your best friends are and what are their roles. how big is the impact and influence they had on your life? do you feel that they have contributed to your life in a positive manner? and if so, do you feel obligated to them? do you feel you owe them your respect? do you feel that they deserve more than the average? if i asked you, 'would you help your friends in their time of need?', what would you say? if i asked you, 'would you give them the shirt off your back?', what would you say? if i asked you, 'would you do whatever it took to help them, would you do whatever it took to insure their safety, would you do whatever it took to insure their friendship?', would you sacrifice? would you compromise? would you do anything and everything for your friends? i don't know about you, i only know me but i know my answer and how common is the cliche, 'i would do anything for my friends'. well, then why do so many of our friendships fail? because in our high expectations of everyone else, we don't live up to our words. your friendship failed because you didn't put forth a little more effort, your friendship failed because you didn't make the attempt to understand a little bit more, your friendship failed because you weren't willing to give the shirt off your back, your friendship failed because you weren't willing to tell your friend how you truly felt, your friendship failed because you failed to compromise. we fail our friends with tribe cliches, false confidance and hollow words. we fail to be completely honest with the only people in this world who are supposed to understand us. so what does that say about us? two things: either we don't know how to pick our friends or we don't understand what the definition of friend truly is. you have to take some responsibility. when things are going well, you take all the credit. conversely, when things are going badly, you must learn how to take some of the blame. but in our immaturity, we except everyone else to bend, to compromise, to call first, to apologize. because we are selfish. most likely, because most of us are truly undeserving of good friends and like the saying goes, 'you can judge a person by the company they keep' and what that means is, if your friends are shitty people, it's because you are a shitty person. because you let it continue, because you let them be shitty, you don't call them on their shit. you skirt over issues and you fail to keep your promises. so are you willing to do anything for a friend? are you willing to compromise? are you willing to admit your fault and shortcomings? are you willing to swallow your pride? you want real friends? then be a real friend. live up to your away messages, live up to your journal entries, and live up to your promises.